Conflict in communication
The conflict that I had this week was concerning my son and grandson. I gave my son advice on how to discipline my grandson because my grandson was really acting out in school and at home. However, this is not the first time that I have brought some of my grandsons bad behavior to the attention of my son. In the past my son sort of brushed it off like it did not mean that much or was of little importance. Now it is massive because it was not dealt with beforehand.
In telling my son all of this I sensed he was getting defensive and I had to stop talking and begin listening. I immediately apologized for being harsh and lacking compassion for his situation and making him feel like he was less than as a parent. I begin using nonviolent communication. When I became compassionate something broke and my son begin to receive what I was saying. Hindsight is 20/20 but it is the way we express it that will make it significant to others.
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Conflict in communication The conflict that I had this week was concerning my son and grandson. I gave my son advice on how to discipline ...
Veleda,
ReplyDeleteStepping back and thinking before speaking can be a useful skill. Everyone wants to be heard, but it is important for the speaker to take to time to observe the receiver of the message.
Parenting never stops and you want to very best for your son and grandson. Take time to assess the situation before speaking and you will be heard.
Alecia