The similarities and differences between how I evaluated myself as a communicator and how others evaluated me, that surprised me the most, was how I scored myself as having high anxiety or concern about communicating in front of a crowd and mingling with strangers. The people that evaluated me didn't see that as an problem or concern. They mentioned to me that I seemed well versed and confident whenever I speak in front of a group and I get my point across well. They also felt that I am very friendly and a people person when it comes to talking to people. Where as i scored myself as having communication hypertension almost. I scored myself in the 70's and 80's where the people who evaluated me, scored me in the 30 and 40's. I guess my perception of self-efficacy will lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy if i listen to the people who evaluated me. They were very positive and nothing but praises for the communication part of the evaluation.
This gives me a sense of self-adequacy and makes me content, However, there is always room for self-improvement as a motivator.
The evaluation that I didn't like that I received from other people was the verbal aggressiveness document. I scored very high on this evaluation as being very aggressive when communicating. I always called it assertiveness because my intentions are never to hurt people or dishonor them. One part of the evaluation said that I resorted to character attacks and ridicule when talking to others who do not share my viewpoint. That is definitely not true, but what if that is the way people receive my communication. That really unveiled some things and I have work to do. I never want to come off as a person who does not care about other people feelings. I have work to do.
Reference
O'Hair, D. Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.
(2015). Real communication (3rd.ed). New
York: Bedford/ St. Martin's.
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